Dating as a plus size lady is not an easy task. We are living in the world full of body-shamed images. While it’s hard to control them, we are attacked by others and forced to be “perfect”.
All those factors, plus, a lack of help available for fat women who want to date often and effectively, makes dating a nightmare for all BBWs across the globe.
In this article we will give you a few extra tips how to treat your plus-size as a superpower!
1. Show off yourself!
Overweight girls are always taught to hide bodies, not showing them off since they are “no perfect”. In fact, nobody is perfect and BBWs shall not be afraid to take as much space as needed. Wear clothes which make you feel sexy, even if they leave some parts of your body uncovered.
First of all YOU need to be comfy with your body, and then let partner discover sexuality together.
2. Take risk!
There’s a saying “no risk no fun” and we do agree on this matter. Do not be afraid to take a risk in dating, even if this might end up with rejection. Being rejected is a natural process while searching for love and even slim and “attractive” ladies might get kicked out.
Being rejected do not depend on size! If there’s a cute guy near you, ask him out!
3. Don’t run after the person who wants you. Go for the person who YOU want to date!
Unfortunately, this is very serious & common problem. Most of the curvy girls have a justice, that they cannot desire someone because of size. All they can do is run after a guy or girl who put some interested in them. Being a BBW do not mean that you have to date & marry the first person who is into you.
Furthermore, if you're not attracted to the person approaching you, feel free to say so. Go out, take some time and discover your best match!
4. Be confident about who you are!
This is an obvious one, but some BBWs have a lack of confidence from early teenhood. Be sure to know your value, love yourself & show it to a potential partner. You are valuable and show it from the beginning while dating!
5. Do not go to “invisible dates”
So there’s a cute guy who wants to spend time with you, but suddenly he proposes to meet up in the middle of the night? Unfortunately, some guys are ashamed to show off with BBW in public and trying to hide them in front of others. Late night dates or chilling out only at home are not the perfect way to date!
Choose guys who are not worried to meet you in public, spend time in fancy restaurant or cinema.
6. Recognise the difference between being desired and being fetishized
Sadly there might be a thin line between being desired and being fetishized and you shall learn how to distinguish it.
Spotting the signs of fetishization, like being encouraged to gain weight, getting fatty & sweet foods from your date, being repeatedly referred to as a BBW, get touched here & there often, and having a lot of conversations that reference the size of your body is a RED flag!
7. Dump anybody who is not comfy with your size
Talking about you in the term to BBW, bad compliments about size, weight-related jokes and any other rude behaviour shouldn’t be tolerated!
Your size does not make you as a victim of non-funny & fatphobia reactions.
Mind all the tips we gave you and be a queen of your dating life!
Why do Black Men like BBW? Posted by Admin
Everybody has an individual taste when it comes to love and relationship and specific people attracts a different kind of person. Our preferences and what kind of people we would like to meet and a date creates in early childhood and it’s based on your traditions, family matters, and influence within the educational background.
When it comes to BBWs it seems like they are mostly attracted to black men, and this might be noticeable during the years, especially when bbw dating sites abecomes more popular. Nowadays, black guys seem to be fascinated with plus size ladies more than ever before and BBWs become a part of their sexual dreams and desires. What are the real reasons that black guys prefer to date chubby ladies with extra kilograms?
Body shape makes the biggest reason here. Chubby girls with big hips and full breasts are the most attractive for black guys, those guys had been taught since young childhood that real woman has curves. The black woman is well known for being plus size and they know exactly how to show all sexy attitudes here and there. Having and seeing black chubby girls all over the lifetime make a thing to a plus size white lady as well. In most of the cases if a guy had been raised with a plus size mom who has big breasts and hips, for sure he will like such girls when it comes to adultery later on.
A couple who have few kids is something normal and natural in black people’s culture. They are more fertility than white people and black ladies give birth a couple of times during the lifetime. In African culture, a young teenage girl is able to become a mother which is totally acceptable in the place where she is living. Big hips and plus size body gives better abilities to keep the pregnancy and give birth with no problems. The wider hips woman has the better and non-complicated labor she might perform. Big breasts are a sign of being able to feed the baby with milk without worries of not enough lactation.
Plus size girls seem to be more open minded, carrying and understandable to the ones they love. BBWs are basically friendlier than skinny girls and have great abilities to connect with people right away. They are funny with great sense of humor and self-criticism. They can joke around even about their own body shape and make people assimilate easily. Despite all that great characteristics, it doesn’t mean that BBWs are easy to get just because of their body shape. They know their prices and are self-confident. This is something which turns most of the black guys.
Many black guys have a great and high level of confidence and they are not focused on finding “the perfect wife” but a girl who will love them no matter what forever. They just want to meet and date the woman they like and don’t matter what other people might say about this unusual relationship. They want to have fun and be loved without any judgment. If the girl is chubby but has a great personality (as most of BBWs does), the black guy won't care much about her body shape as long as he can get along with her well.
This is something we should learn from black guys and their love for BBW. Instead of dissing chubby ladies they give them a great chance and possibilities to feel love and care!
Why BBWs never become lesbians? Posted by Admin
Being lesbian and start homosexually relationship might be a life to change the decision, especially if you are planning to devote all your life and the way of behavior towards it. Such drastic decision might not be accepted by your family, friends and environment, however, some of the people claims that become gay or lesbian was the best decision they could ever make.
However, it seems like most of the lesbians out there are skinny and quite attractive girls who are looking for thrill adventures with another girl or just want to check out how it’s like to play in bed with a woman. It’s barely hard to notice and see BBW who would go for all with another lady. Why it’s like this? Are there some reasons why chubby girls still prefer to meet with guys only?
1. Being embarrassed in public
Fat body gathers attention, there’s no way to avoid until you won’t get slim and lose that extra kilogram. Chubby people have a tendency to be paranoid about others people opinion about themselves. Obviously, not all BBWs are like this but some of them lack self-confidence and can’t deal with rumors and gossips around them. If a fat girl would become a lesbian, she would be exposed way much more about criticism from the world and be judged easily. Even some BBWs do have an attraction to another girl; they rather stay in the shadow and do not show sexual preferences.
2. End of family tree
Chubby girls are friendly, easy going and really open minded. They are also family oriented and can do whatever it takes to protect beloved ones. Since they received so much support from family members since they struggle with heavyweight, they wish to have own family and kids one day. This desire is so real that some BBWs even wish to become a single mother, just to raise a kid and fill up self-satisfaction. Of course lesbian can become a single mom or raise a kid together with her partner; however, this is not that acceptable in society yet. BBWs are less likely to make a relationship with other girls because of their dreams of meeting the perfect guy one day and have kids with him.
3. Increased risk of STDs
Fat girls need to struggle with weight and health problems every single day. Not only their spines are getting bad but overall body condition might be in a serious danger because of extra kilograms. The heart might not work properly and there’s a huge risk of sudden death if the overweight is a serious matter. In this case, why expose your body to more sickness and disease? Studies have shown that gay and lesbians are “perfect source” of getting STDs and herpes for free. They pass it quite easily since they are having sex with the same gender and since there’s no risk of pregnancy, they don’t use any kind of contraceptive method. Obviously, it's hard to get protection while having sex with another girl.
4. Not being accepted in society
BBWs have a great struggle for being accepted in society just because of their body sizes. They spend years and years for having a good and friendly opinion in particular environments. If a fat girl becomes lesbian, she will gain acceptance from lesbians’ society, however, no more acceptation in everyday life from family, friends, and co-workers. This would bring suicide thoughts and end up very badly.
5. It’s harder to find true love
As we mention above, BBWs are family oriented and would like to have husband and kids as soon as it’s possible. Finding a true love is very important and might not happen, or not happen that easily if you become a lesbian. Girls are tricky and mean, so you can end up with a broken heart instead of the engagement ring. Most of the lesbian girls are in the hood for playing and one-night stands. It’s hard to find a girl who is willing to devote to partner and have serious commitment and relationship.
What it's like to be a plus-size woman who dates thin guys? Posted by Admin
Dating is a crucial part of our life and sooner or later everybody will be on demand for finding the perfect partner for marriage and serious commitments. However, finding love and relationship is not that easy if you are a representative of specific niches, in this case, a BBW. BBW which stand for Big & Beautiful woman is a community of chubby or obese ladies who are proud of having extra kilograms but still willing to fall in love and share emotions with someone special.
Judgment might be a real problem here because society is not that open minded yet about plus size ladies and their dating preferences. Most of the thin people claim that plus size ladies shall be interested in chubby and obese guys only because this is something “they deserved for”. This is so wrong because some slim guys are rather interested in dating BBWs then skinny girls. Plus size who is hanging out with masculine guys is judged by others (even family and friends) who cannot understand that the fact that she is chubby doesn’t mean that she cannot meet slim guys.
2.Difficulties in finding partner
When you are plus size it’s rather hard to find perfect partner especially if you are looking for him through slim and sporty style guys. You might be rejected quite fast and quite easily if you spot feelings towards the wrong person. This might be depressing and let you down for a while. Every chubby girl needs to make sure that the guy she is looking for is into dating BBWs as well. This is frustrating for most plus size ladies.
Online dating seems to be fair enough when it comes to finding a slim partner if you are a BBW. Not only there are specific dating services for extra kilograms ladies and their admirers but even dating apps like Tinder makes it easier. While offline dating, you can be approached by a guy who is not interested in you and just make fun of you, in the online world it’s not common. On dating services, you will be contacted and matched only with someone who is really into BBWs and their chubby bodies and receive messages from guys who are clearly interested in you. It seems like finding a thin partner online is easier and looks like a piece of cake.
No matter what your preferences are, if you are a plus size lady and like to date slim guys, just go for it. There’s a plenty of fishes in the sea who are waiting for your contact. Never give up and follow your heart!
Problems which BBW might meet while dating. Posted by Admin
Dating as BBW might be hard and challenging especially if you have low self-confidence and you are not a dating expert yet. There might be a problem not only despite your weight and how your body looks like but society might give you troubles too. Being overweight is not an easy task and requires a lot of patience and determination while dating and looking for a partner.
What are the problems which BBW might occur while dating? Let’s find out!
1.Finding partnerIt seems like finding a partner is not that easy when you are overweight or a chubby person. Most of the guys prefer to date with slim girls looking like models directly from a catwalk. There are also not clear signs if the guy you are interested in is either interested in meeting you or like BBWs. Hanging out in public places like bars and disco in order to find a match, is not an easy task either. You can be misunderstood by a guy directly when you come to his table and try to have a conversation. Finding partner might be really frustrating and requires lots of patience and time.
2.Meeting people in public places
Except for all the things connected with finding a proper partner and great a guy who is into BBWs, meeting people in public places might be a bit uncomfortable as well. If you are heading to a fancy place or spot in order to catch some sexy guys to dating with, you might not be able to choose proper time for this. If you come up to early, all sexy guys might not appear yet. If you arrive at the place too late, all attractive guys might be taken and went to the home with a soul mate already. Also arriving too early into some place it might be a sign that you are too desperate to find a partner in order to your weight.
Clothes are rather important when it comes to a date. The elegant, sexy and smart look is highly recommended when you go for a date. However, BBWs might have problems with dressing well because of their weight. Not all gorgeous looking clothes had been designed for chubby ladies. Some fatty girls are even desperate to look great and try to wear something they don’t feel comfortable with. The most common trick is wearing enormous size high heels to make legs and hips look slimmer. Wearing midi black dress is a great trick too because black color makes body looks more flawless and thin.
BBWs are well known from having a great sense of humor and being the animal of the party. Despite being cheerful and happy, they hate jokes about themselves and their body shape. Unfortunately, they need to play it cool and pretend to be easy riders about their weight. Joking around about how big they hips are, make them feel bad inside but try to make people fall in love with their easy-going characters.
These are only a couple of problems which might become a nightmare when BBW dating. Unfortunately, the list of the issues goes on. Hopefully, if you are plus size lady and keep in mind that no matter what you will find your soul mate; everything will become a lot easier.